Making Friends as a Grown Up is Hard

[nun69]

Originally Posted by apphotos

Gosh, I've thought about this a lot lately.

When I was married it didn't matter much, because we never left home, and were together almost 24/7, either physically or by phone etc.

Now that I'm single and spend most weekends without the kids, I'm missing having friends to go 'hang out with'. I have a few really great friends (none are very available to just hang out though) a couple friends that I've had since kindergarten and we talk a lot, it's just different.

It is tough. I've realized more in the last couple of months though, that I don't give myself enough credit, if I just open up a little bit, the people will come. I've had more interaction with people in the past 4 months than I have in the past almost 8 years.

(PS it's kinda late & this sounds like I"m rambling)

you just need to move closer to me

[jk703]

Originally Posted by erica zane

This is why I'm a hermit...so much easier... ;D

I try to be... totally.... but my hubby isn't... so we balance each other out.

Most of my friends are from college, when I sorta jumped the shark... I went mainstream and joined a sorority. While some of it was good, some was bad... I did make friends for a lifetime, and I met my husband (Mr. Social Butterfly). I'm not the best friend a person can have either... the whole hermit thing keeps me from being really social. As for college/sorority friends... I still keep in touch with about 6 that I see on a regular basis. The others, I can say, if I needed something, they would help/be there, but I know me... I won't ask, lol. My closest friend from college moved into the next town over... and when we were looking to move last year... we actually found a house in her development that was perfect for us.... it was like the stars aligned....

After we got married in 2002 we moved into a townhouse development that we really got close to a bunch of couples with small kids... but as everyone got older, families got bigger, everyone started moving.... so while we all got close, it didn't last as well with out the proximity. We do talk and hang out occasionally... it's different.

It is difficult.

[Sherri Tierney]

I was thinking about this the other day. A few of you have mentioned having the kind of friend you tell your secrets to. I realized I don't have any secrets to tell! LOL I seriously sat and thought about what secrets I might have to share and there are none. I also rarely have complaints about my husband so I wouldn't be talking to a girlfriend about him either. I guess I'm not missing much then.

When I am around my friends I enjoy it and wish I could spend longer with them, but when I get back home to my little nest, I breathe a big sigh of relief that I don't have to be 'on' any longer.

[nun69]

Sherri I don't have alot of secrets either LOL I am pretty much an open book about EVERYTHING and sometimes people can't handle me but the ones that can, stay aroudn for awhile and I really love that!

[catgoddess]

Originally Posted by Sherri Tierney

When I am around my friends I enjoy it and wish I could spend longer with them, but when I get back home to my little nest, I breathe a big sigh of relief that I don't have to be 'on' any longer.

This is me exactly, too! It takes me a few days to recover from major social events. I need lots of extra me time.

[taracotta7]

Originally Posted by ricslady

That article reminded me of what I posted as a FB status last week.
I'm not ignoring YOU. I'm ignoring everyone.
Am I terrible or what?

I have said this exact phrase to a friend. It was the God honest truth and I don't think she believed me! LOL