I can't vent on Facebook....

[Traci Reed]

So you guys get to feel my frustration...I apologize in advance!!

So, my MIL is kinda (really) crazy and has spent the last 5 years or so completely torturing her sons (and me with them). A few years ago, she moved to Idaho and then Tennessee so we have had a kinda calm in the storm. She still manages to negatively affect us but now it's from a distance.

Fast forward to last Monday, she was coming into town for a doctor's appointment and was going to stay with friends. So she gets here on Monday and says "Oh I'll stay here tonight and go to my friend's in the morning." Ok, fine, cool.

Tuesday I overheard her on the phone with her mom: "Oh I think I'll stay through Friday and go to my friend's Friday night." Hmm..ok. She didn't even bother to tell US, let alone ask.

Friday I heard "Well I want to go to church on Sunday so I'll stay through Sunday and go Sunday night." She didn't go to church Sunday.

Saturday night I heard "Well, I'm going to have my husband (who drives long haul truck) find a route out here and I'll drive home with him, but don't worry, when he gets here, we'll get a hotel. It'll probably be 8-10 more days till he's here."

O.M.G. WHO DOES THAT?!?!?! Seriously, we're both at the "I could kill her" stage and since she blew ALL her money at the casino Monday night (gambling addict), we can't even really kick her out! What happened to these phantom friends? I could just keel over and die now.

/endrant (for now)

[SmallMoments]

Oh my word, Traci. You are way nicer than I am. So sorry. Hopefully that 8-10 days turns out to be much shorter!!!

[Sarah8914]

oh wow. I can't even imagine. I'm so sorry, good luck to you!

[Jen22]

That's when I start hibernating in my room just to get away from her. Or I find I have a lot of things to do (that don't include her, no matter what!) and get the heck out of the house and just do ... ANYthing but be home. I can't stand my inlaws, so I feel your pain!! I pray things go well enough that the time can fly by and your torment can end!!!!

[lovely1m]

Ouch. I am sorry that sounds terrible. Hopefully he comes sooner rather than later.

[ColleenSwerb]

8-10 days? Without asking? I would kill someone. I'm SO sorry Traci. It's awful how much family will walk all over us and we feel "trapped" to do anything about it/in response (SIL drama here lately).

[joelsgirl]

omgosh, i. would. die. I hope you survive!

[jessica31876]

I am sooo sorry!! I really dislike my mother-in-law but am soooooo glad she does not come to our house. I cannot imagine her staying for an overnight visit but she does live 2 or 3 miles away so I saw her enough LOL. Hope it goes by fast or maybe she will get the hint and go stay with her friend or something. Maybe make some trips to the park alone with your hubby and kids to keep sane?

[mummytothree]

I'd skip my pills for a day...kill her and then plead temporary insanity!!!

I don't usually wish time away.....but I hope the next 8 to 10 days FLIES for you!!!

[marlathrall]

Wow... That is just plain rude and totally crazy. Hopefully, she will get a clue and leave soon.

[LeeAndra]

Wow. I'm so sorry, Traci! That's awful!!

[heathergw]

sigh... (((hugs)))

come to Chicago for a few weeks

[Tracyfish]

{{HUGS}}

I just saw her suggest you move to Tennessee on Facebook.....HAHAHAHA!!!

[taracotta7]

Ugh. This woman irritates me. The rudeness of not even asking is BEYOND unbelievable. You have already had her for over a week. When is she going to ask? Now another week or so. Wowzer. Seriously, I will fly you to Oklahoma if need be. NO JOKE. ((HUGS))

[Traci Reed]

8-10 days on top of the week she's already been here!

[Traci Reed]

Originally Posted by Tracyfish

{{HUGS}}

I just saw her suggest you move to Tennessee on Facebook.....HAHAHAHA!!!

Ikr? <shakes head in disbelief>

[Stacey42]

That sux. If you are feeling like doing something active... you could

Block the vent in her room so it's either really hot or really cold. Pour water on her bed while she is out & then cover it up with the bedsheets so she doesn't notice it until it's too late. Or toss bread crumbs in the bed. Every single night. Run out of her favorite beverage & keep 'forgetting' to get more. Turn off the hot water heater or turn on every faucet & flush any other toilets while she is taking a shower. Misplace the remote control or replace the batteries with dead ones & be out of any new ones (and forget to get more). Put baby oil in her shampoo.

These are various passive aggressive things a friend of mine did to get her MIL to speed up her home search while living with them. Nearly everyday she'd say something like "oh it's so hard to find just the right place. I love your place & you have so much room. I bet you don't even know I'm here & I love I can help out watching the kids while I stay" angling to get them to invite her live with them. Then plan 'get rid of MIL' went into effect (her son's idea) and a week later she suddenly found an apartment.

Might not get rid of her any sooner but I doubt she'll ever decide to spend the night again.

[Lyd]

Wowee Traci. I think I would go insane. Good luck surviving the next week and a half.

[Kjersti]

ARE YOU KIDDING ME???? I think you're only about an hour away from me......I'll make up a bed for you, get some junk food, and you can move in here for the next few days. That is SO WRONG. I'm seriously in disbelief.

[Giseli Freitas]

What?1? So sorry Traci. (((HUGS)))

[iScrap]

That is seriously insane! I don't know what goes through people's heads sometimes. Try not to kill her and hope and pray that after those 8-10 more days, you'll have a nice LONG break.

Maybe you can have her babysit the kids since she's there. You know. By telling her instead of asking her. lolol

[rach3975]

That's ridiculous! You've got to wonder if she ever intended to stay with friends. Sounds more like she wanted to stay with your family but knew you'd say no if she asked.

Do you have any friends who'd want to make a last minute trip to visit you this weekend? You could tell her you're so sorry, but she'll need to go stay with her friend for a few days as she originally planned because you have guests coming with a prior claim on the room. And yeah, I think I'd be looking for some subtle ways to make her feel less welcome. I could never do anything obvious like water on the sheets, but I think I'd serve meals she didn't like, let the kids be as loud as they wanted early in the morning, etc.

[tanyiadeskins]

Just be careful how nice you are to people, that is all I have to say I finally had to MAKE my mom move out, that is where I went last weekend, to move her to PA. I let her move to help her a little and she never left for like 5 years ... never ever again. NEVER

[LJSDesigns]

Know what you mean Tanyia. My mother lives with me too. When my father was dying he asked if I would make sure she had a home and I agreed, so I am stuck and she knows it. Don't get me wrong, I do love her, but I wish I didn't have to live with her. She takes advantage of me in every way and I let her because she is my mom. Makes for some long, sad days.

Traci maybe you can find some comfort in the fact that she will leave soon. Not much in the moment, but it counts for a lot in the long run.

[Sherri Tierney]

Ugh! Sorry, Traci. It can't be easy to have someone over stay their welcome like that. Its even harder when its family, especially a parent! My MIL would get sick of us long before we'd get sick of her so we'd never have that problem but I could see it happening with some of MY family members. LOL

[abm234]

This is absolutely unimaginable. Unbelievably rude. Immature. I'm trying to find the silver lining for you....maybe your kids are loving their grandma time? I'm so sorry.

[misfitinmn]

Oh wow, "ONLY" another 8-10 days, huh? Good lord, that's crazy. I cannot imagine intruding on someone in such a fashion, especially without even ASKING first!!

[Victoria Feemster]

Oh my I sooo feel your pain. Back in mid November my MIL bullied her way (I say that half joking) into moving in with us for what was suppose to be 1-2 months. Well it's now on 3 months counting and her husband just lost his job and I have teenage BIL's that are disgusting/annoying! Ugh I want them out of my house.

Sorry to hijack your thread but like you I can't vent on Facebook either. Maybe she has some other reason for staying so long and didn't want to tell you?

[Milmomma]

Wow, I have issues even staying with my MIL for a couple days when we pcs. I can't stand her to come to our place. I have to put the kids in the same room and give her a kid bed. Then 1 bathroom, ugh! I am so sorry! You are so nice for even letting her stay. Last time my MIL asked to come see us, I told her to book a rent-a-car and a hotel as we don't have room.

[kristijoy]

OH man...sounds absolutely horrible. Sending you lots of hugs!!!

[nun69]

omg...HUGS.....my inlaws live 5 hours away and when they come to visit us they always get a hotel cause my family is kinda crazy and they like the peace and quiet of the hotel I hope it flies by like Elizabeth said....

[Traci Reed]

Thanks girlies for all the support...today's her birthday so I had to make a big deal about it even though I'm fuming on the inside LOL

and STACEY...OMG! HAHAHA

[kendallt]

Ick! I'm sorry, girl. I've had my fair share of crazy MIL moments, but I have to say that if she did something like this, I'd be ready to claw my own eyeballs out! Hang in there, and in the meantime, have a cocktail...or three!

[disneyaddict]

I would just die!! My MIL lives about 9 hours from here and has, once, decided to "stop by" and stay for a few days with NO notice, but she never repeated it and would never stay that long at MY house: my husband only manages to last about one day around her before I am left to babysit her. On the other hand, she has been known to just tell my husband's brother that she will be there for three or four weeks, show up, and then spend the entire time letting him, his wife, and their three kids know everything they are doing wrong in their lives. As a matter of fact, last week my husband received an email she mistakenly sent to him rather than his brother inviting herself to stay for 27 days. I thought he was going to stroke out, because he would have just let her come--- none of them will tell her no. (On the other hand, I would have been on the phone providing her with a much shorter option due to several "earlier" commitments that we are just not in a position to work around. LOL.)

Hopefully, you will be able to take some of the earlier advice and just make yourself as scarce as you can.

[Sharon Kay]

Tracey ... wow. Can you afford to get away ... I think I would tell her you had a mini vacation planned (and it was a surprise for the kids) and you aren't going to change your plans ... leave dh with her and maybe he will get the nerve to tell her to get out. Maybe they need some mother/son time. 8-P

That is just flat out rude in my opinion in how she is treating you!

[HeatherKS]

OMG That is crazy-train! Sending you lots of sanity vibes!

[kresta]

Eek! That's awful!

Yeah, I'd totally have a week full of date nights w/ the hubby, with the expectation that she's keeping the kiddos!

[Becca Bonneville]

Oh goodness that is crazy! I am sorry you have to deal with the mil's insanity! I would be completely miffed too! No es bueno on her part!

Sending lots of good vibes your way for the strength to get through it all. ((big hugs))

[kelley]

Oh my goodness Traci!! That is incredibly rude!! I guess I'd find lots of ways to be busy outside the house and take lots of naps in your room. Yikes.

[Paula]

Wow Traci! That is incredibly rude on her part not to even ask you if what she's planning puts you out at all. I would die if my MIL did that to me.

[mrshobbes]

I know this is a rant but it still sounds so understated to me. I was seriously going WTH STAYING TIL FRIDAY?!?!?! and then you threw the curve ball of waiting til the husband come in 8-10 days. That is insane.

[k23m]

Wow. I dont know what I would do, but I would certainly be frustrated too!! Wow. Wow. Wow.

Hang in there!! Don't do anything that will land you in jail! LOL

[jocelinsmommy]

u poor thing I can totally relate--my MIL has done the SAME thing to me---maybe put her up in a hotel on your own $$ for the last few nights to regain your sanity early? If that's even an option--that's what we did to my MIL because she'd overstayed her welcome with EVERYONE. She told us at one point she was moving up here thankfully she got back with her 5th husband--nuf said! Some ppl just DONT get it!

[kristijoy]

Man...I sure hope I never turn into a MIL like that.