Breaking Point

[Jengerbread88]

My dad is a cop, so he has just given me advice, too.

La, I realize that I may have to deal with visitation, etc, but in his last text to me, he said "I don't even believe he's mine," (Zach is 100% his, because I haven't been active with ANYONE else anywhere CLOSE to that time, but... whatever). Anyway, he has so far made it clear he doesn't even want to know when Zach arrives, let alone see him... so I don't know whether or not there will be visitation. And for him to get visitation in Kansas, it puts him in a position where he is accepting Zach is his, and therefore accepting the possibility that he may have to pay child support. He isn't too fond of paying child support on another kid, so I don't see him even trying to see Zach... but, that's just my thought on it.

Thanks for the support and advice, ladies. It helps.

[nun69]

honey we will always be here when you need us ♥♥♥

[Jengerbread88]

Originally Posted by nun69

honey we will always be here when you need us ♥♥♥

This is why I love SSD more than almost anything.

[Milmomma]

Dittoing the drop him like its hotttt. I would say block his number so he can't even stress you, leave him with your email or something. So you can deal with him on your terms and on your time. He is not important enough to mess with you and the baby. Just worry about you. If he's like you say and coming from KC, I understand the Kansas Laws, he won't want to know the kid just wants to get to you. When you stop letting him get to you, he will leave as the game is not fun anymore. :/

[Ginger_79]

So sorry you have to go through that! I agree with anyone to ignore him completely. Also, knowing how most women work, make it impossible for yourself to be in contact. Block numbers, emails everything. Just leave him your laywers details. Tell your friends and family to not forward anything from him. To not even tell you when he tried. Tell them to stick with this, even if you change your mind later and ask them. Tell them, about the contractions and that they need to help you protecting yourself until the baby is born.

[Jengerbread88]

Wow. I had this awesome friend who promised to be there for me through everything, and then the day before yesterday, he sent me a goodnight message like normal. Then, he hasn't texted or responded to texts since then. So, one of my main forms of support (I go to school with him, and was going to ask him for backup if Kyle tried anything while I was at school), is completely gone. I texted him this morning about my aunt passing away in the morning, and their fears that the other won't make it til afternoon, and still nothing.

Not hearing from him for 30+ hours is unusual... it hurts not having the support I thought I'd have.

[adrianka]

Originally Posted by Jengerbread88

Wow. I had this awesome friend who promised to be there for me through everything, and then the day before yesterday, he sent me a goodnight message like normal. Then, he hasn't texted or responded to texts since then. So, one of my main forms of support (I go to school with him, and was going to ask him for backup if Kyle tried anything while I was at school), is completely gone. I texted him this morning about my aunt passing away in the morning, and their fears that the other won't make it til afternoon, and still nothing.

Not hearing from him for 30+ hours is unusual... it hurts not having the support I thought I'd have.

You see, people can get ill / have their cell phones broken or stolen / feel like not communicating for whatever reason etc. This may mean nothing.