prayers needed badly

[junebug]

♥♥((hugs))♥♥

[kim21673]

Thanks for the update Jessica. There are MANY, MANY prayers being said for you, your DH and your entire family.

PS. Just remember to take care of yourself too!!! ((Hugs))

[Penny Springmann]

Jessica, I am so sorry for your loss and the injury to your husband. You are all in my prayers.

[Lyd]

More and more love and prayers coming your way Jessica!

[Leontine78]

Jessica, how are YOU? It's hard to lose your son and seeing your husband in the hospital not knowing he's son has died. I can't imagine how that must feel for YOU. I am sending you as much hugs and prayers I can give, but it's not nearly enough.

[Kara]

Thinking and praying for you and your family, Jessica. This is such an awful tragedy, and I wish there was more I could do to help.

[newfiemountiewife]

Sending more love to you Jessica. Nothing I say feels like nearly enough, but know that all of us are here for you, for anything you might need.

[scrap2day]

I've been thinking about you so much this weekend. Please take care of yourself too. You are loved so much. Thank you for the update on your husband. More prayers for his healing.

[carrie1977]

I have no words...sending lots of prayers your way. ((HUGS))

[Shawna Clingerman]

Jessica - just wanted to send you my love as well. Your husband is in my prayers and you will be in my heart! I'm so so sorry for your loss.

[disneyaddict]

I am so sorry to hear about your son and husband. You are in my prayers.

[SweetMelissa]

Jessica I am happy to hear that your husband is stable. I will keep praying that he has he continues to recover. Words can not express how you must feel about your son. I am so sorry that this happened to your family. I am heart broken for you.

If you don't mind I would like to put your husband on my churches prayer list.

[glumirk]

I've been thinking and praying for you and your family all weekend. ((hugs)) I wish that there were more that I could do because my heart hurts so much for you.

[color of my heart]

oh jessica... i'm so sorry. i'm thinking of you and your family. {{hugs}}

[tanyiadeskins]

Jessica, I am glad to hear that your dh is stable so far. My entire family is praying for you all.

[Nevada Jen]

Jessica, I am so sorry for your loss. I have never been where you are and can't profess to know what you are feeling but having done serious unplanned hospitalizations with my DD, be prepared for YOU to hit a wall at about 72 hours. I hope the huge family is helping you with the normal everyday things that still have to happen and that you can get some moments of peace through the coming weeks. Hugs!

[emmasmommy]

i have no words jessica. my heart has been with you since i heard the news. please take care of you as well. (((HUGS)))

[DawnMarch]

I was just stopping back in too to tell you know that I've been praying for your family and you have been in my thoughts all weekend. I am hoping your DH will make a speedy recovery and your family will continue to have strength and comfort.

[mlrw70]

I am so incredibly sorry for you and your family. You are in my prayers!

[eranslow]

I will definitely keep your whole family in my thoughts and prayers. I am so sorry.

[sannajeannine]

I am so heartbroken for you. I can't even begin to imagine. Know that you and your husband are still being lifted up in prayer. Please remember that its very vital that you take care of yourself, also.

[sand]

Jessica, know that God is caring you right now. I know it is hard to think much less focus but you have been given the strength to get thru the day even if it is one moment at a time (because an hour can seem overwhelming). I lost my husband a few months ago, suddenly and totally unexpected, and it does feel like an awful dream. You and your family WILL get thru this. Scrapping the photobooks has helped us heal as well as preserve our memories, especially those of my young children. I will be praying for your husband's recovery.

[Teresa]

My thoughts and prayers have been with you and your family, Jessica. I'm so very sorry you've been made to bear such pain. Sending you strength for the minutes, hours, days and weeks ahead...so many wish we could take the hurt away. (hugs)

[jessica31876]

I just got in tonight and am finally sitting down. I am so overwhelmed right now. I have everyone asking me did you call so and so? DId you file the claim? Have you contacted anyone about the funeral service? On and on...I have done some of those but not all. I will get to it. I know it feels like to all of us that its been a long time since this accident happened but its only been a little over 48 hours. So it is frustrating for them to keep asking me: Did you....? (fill in the blank with whatever they happened to be asking)

Ok then my mother-in-law has always been somewhat dramatic. Big or small she is the type who makes everything about her and needs the attention to be on her. So today she is at the hospital basically just sobbing the whole time. Well she is refusing to eat as well apparently. Saying she is not going to eat until her son is out of the hospital. Her three sons, her husband and her grandson are all surrounding her telling her come on you have to eat for literally hours. They would alternate saying you have to eat mom or come on mom just take one bite while she just keeps saying no no no no. After a little while of that I just had to leave. I was so frustrated. Finally after awhile I just told her look youve got to stop. You have to eat. You cannot make this into something worse then it is and I am not going to worry about having to tell my husband our son died and oh yea also your mom lost it and refused to eat because of you being in the hospital and Matthew being gone so she is in the hospital too. Yea it is frustrating!! While I realize it is devastating and painful for all of us I do not believe this is necasary and I feel like she is just being ridiculous and honestly I just do not want to deal with it. But if I tell them that they will just get angry at me and make it seem like Im the one with the problem. So so frustrating.

As for how I am doing I dont know how to answer that. Im not ok obviously. Im just kinda trying to get through the day and go home and get what needs to be done done and go to bed. Kinda just going on auto-pilot I guess at this point in time. I am just overwhelmed today really. It was just an awful awful day. I am doing what I have to though. I am going to try to get a good nights sleep tonight. I was not able to sleep much last night and did not sleep at all the night before but I know from experience that is not going to work. I am going to have to get some sleep soon.

So yea that was pretty much my day today. My husband is still stable. No real changes other then they have started to wean him off the continuous drip of pain medications and started giving him the meds through his feeding tube. That will mean he becomes more alert and able to hear us and know we are there so that made me somewhat happy. But that will also mean he will want to know where our son is and how he is doing and I am dreading that moment when he asks those questions. Other then that small change there is not much else that has changed about his condition. The doctors and nurses all keep telling us that it is going to be a long journey and to not expect this to be just days or even 2 or 3 weeks. Several weeks at least they keep saying.

My best friend from elementary school through our 20's came up to see me today though and that felt so good. I missed her so much over the last few years and it was so good to see her again. She is picking me up tomorrow so we can go up to the hospital and we will be going out to lunch too.

So I am going to get off of here now and see what I can find to eat for dinner. I already made my sons dinner and got some stuff done here so now I can eat too. Ill update whenever there is something to update on. Maybe tomorrow night or later in the week. Tomorrow is going to be a tough day I know because I have to make a lot of the phone calls tomorrow for the places not open over the weekend and start the process of planning the funeral.

[cindys732003]

I am so, so sorry Jessica. P&PTs to you and your family

[AmyG]

I'm so sorry Jessica. I understand being on autopilot, it's what will get you through the things that "have" to be done. I'm still praying for you and your family. I cannot even being to tell you how sorry I am for the loss of your son.

[abm234]

Jessica,

I am praying for you and am absolutely heart broken for you. Keep putting one foot in front of the other. You sound like such an incredibly strong woman! I pray you get a good nights sleep tonight!

[NatalieKW]

Bless your heart!! I'm so sorry for your loss!

[KristinCB]

oh jessica please know you are all in my thoughts and prayers (((HUGS))) I just wish there was more we could do for you

[newfiemountiewife]

Jessica, I am sorry your MIL and other family members are being such a thorn in your side. They need to really just leave you alone to do what you need to. Your MIL is being way over the top. Of course everyone is in pain and hurting. Maybe you could enlist the help of a nurse to help get her out of your hair a bit?

I am glad to hear your friend is coming to see you tomorrow. I think she'll be good to have with you. Still wishing there was more I could do for you. ((hugs))

[nun69]

oh Jessica I am so sorry to hear more of this and I wish I could be there to help you or just give you a big {{{HUG}}}

[Kjersti]

I am so sorry for your loss. You are in our prayers.

[HeatherB]

Jessica, I'm so sorry for your loss and for this horrible tragedy you are dealing with. My heart just aches for you and no parent should ever have to go through the loss of a child. I pray that your husband recovers quickly and that your family will find comfort in one another as you move forward.

[jocelinsmommy]

Praying for you--I know I can not say anything that will make this situation any better---but you do know we are all here for u---I can not imagine the pain you are going through <3

[Scrapper007]

I am so, so sorry Jessica. Your family is in my prayers..

[ColleenSwerb]

Jessica I'm only just seeing this now. I am so very sorry for your loss, what a horrible tragedy to have to go through. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

[TheHybridMess]

I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers remain with you.

[Darcy Baldwin]

Jessica - is there someone close to you whom you can delegate some of those phone calls to? I know you want to be able to control and make decisions..but some of the calls that need to be made can be delegated to others, someone you trust, to take some of the burden off of you while you grieve and cope.

I'm glad your friend is taking you out to be away, without the family - you'll need that to help deal.

Your MIL is coping as she knows how. Just ignore her. Honestly..the drama isn't worth your frustration..just let her deal. It is about her, too, and while she may be trying to milk it, she is hurting, too. Just find places to be where she's not when you can.

I'm so sorry you guys are dealing with this now. ((HUGS))

[ayaandjudah]

My heart just hurts for you.

May you find peace in some way.

[jessica31876]

well I got most of the calls made already now just waiting for call backs. I honestly thought it was going to take a whole lot longer to do. I found out some kinda troubling info last night as well. The guy has multiple criminal and traffic sitations involving his driving one of which is reckless driving with alcohol involved. He served one day in jail and was ordered to pay fines and attend a victim awareness course.

[maggie965]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you are going through but I can pray for you and your family. I'm praying for a full recovery for your husband! Praying for you and your family as you move through the grieving process.

[NatalieKW]

Originally Posted by jessica31876

well I got most of the calls made already now just waiting for call backs. I honestly thought it was going to take a whole lot longer to do. I found out some kinda troubling info last night as well. The guy has multiple criminal and traffic sitations involving his driving one of which is reckless driving with alcohol involved. He served one day in jail and was ordered to pay fines and attend a victim awareness course.

Ugh!

[sczos911]

oh Jessica. My thoughts and prayers are continually with you and your family.

[AmberK]

That is just unbelievable. Was he intoxicated this time too?

Originally Posted by jessica31876

well I got most of the calls made already now just waiting for call backs. I honestly thought it was going to take a whole lot longer to do. I found out some kinda troubling info last night as well. The guy has multiple criminal and traffic sitations involving his driving one of which is reckless driving with alcohol involved. He served one day in jail and was ordered to pay fines and attend a victim awareness course.

[meganmecrazy]

Praying for you and your family Jessica. ((((HUGS)))) I'm so very sorry for your loss and will continue to pray for the recovery of your husband.

[Tracie Stroud]

Originally Posted by jessica31876

well I got most of the calls made already now just waiting for call backs. I honestly thought it was going to take a whole lot longer to do. I found out some kinda troubling info last night as well. The guy has multiple criminal and traffic sitations involving his driving one of which is reckless driving with alcohol involved. He served one day in jail and was ordered to pay fines and attend a victim awareness course.

Oh my goodness. This just makes me sick to my stomach. I am so very sorry.

[taracotta7]

Jessica, I just wanted you to know that I have been thinking about you and praying for your family ever since I heard the news. I am SO glad you are popping in to update us and giving you a place to vent. I can't imagine all that you are feeling but please know that we are all supportive of you here and will always be a listening ear.

Darcy said it best about your MIL....just ignore her the best that you can. She is dealing in her own way. Emotions are going to be crazy for everyone involved for a while. Just try to make things a little less stressful for you by walking away. You have enough on your plate, you don't need added drama. ((HUGS))

[digideb]

Just wanted to come back here & let you know again that we are praying for y'all! We also had a special time of prayer for you & your family @ church yesterday morning! (((hugs)))

[Mrs John]

Oh Jessica! Sorry doesn't sound adequate. I am praying for you. Please keep us updated on your husband.

[KirstieGai]

so sorry for your loss, sending prayers for your husband and entire family