complete FB randomness today

[sprauncey1]

Does it bother you when people you know a little (met a couple of times, you do visit their blog some etc) requests you to be a friend on Facebook?

I guess I'm just weird. I don't Facebook people randomly. I have certain qualifications (Family- only out to cousins though, not remote family, Military friends that I've been stationed with, and Friends that I have been out to coffee or lunch etc with). See very limited. I like it that way, less random junk I have to wade through KWIM? Plus we have a very unique last name and I don't want every Tom, Dick or Harry (Lena you get it right LOL) bugging me because of it.

So I get this request today, no note from her saying "Hey I know I barely know you but I have loved our chats in the past etc etc" just blank request. I chose to ignore it but part of me is like "that so rude". I don't know.

How do you all handle friends/requests/etc?

[Priscilla]

I ignore ... every once in a while I will ask how I know them if I am unsure but If I KNOW Them and just don't want to add them I ignore.

[Jennilyn]

I sometimes friend request someone I just met. But on the other hand, if someone friend requests me that I don't know (like DH's family that even HE hasn't met) I just ignore them.

[SweetMelissa]

I'm very picky with who I have on my friends list. its family that I know now - although my dad's cousins keep trying to add me (who are like 50) and I'm like no.... And friends that I talk to. If I don't know the person well I don't add them. Mostly because I post a lot of pictures of my kids, including them in diapers (or swim diapers), and have very personal information on there.

[*Celeste*]

i rarely say no - but i don't follow facebook too closely so it's fine. most of mine are online scrapbooking people.

[rach3975]

I have real life friends and family and a few people I know from CTs on my FB. If I don't know them well enough to add them, I don't think they're going to care too much if I don't. I had it happen with some former classmates. Former school friends I added, but not random people I didn't socialize with in HS and have no desire to keep up with now. I felt a little rude, but not enough to really bother me.

[emmasmommy]

i add people i know online pretty freely. i'm more reserved with those i know 'in real life.' if i don't talk to them on a regular basis and am already friends with them, odds are they're just being nosey, and i don't have time for that.

[lovely1m]

If I know them at all, I approve. I dont put anything on there that is a big deal to me, so I don't much care.

[Megan Turnidge]

I ignore friend requests from people I don't really know much. I have a number of SSD gals in my friends on FB but they're the ones I've "known" online for a couple years and have built an online relationship with. I still get a number of friend requests from people who I can tell they are in the scrap world because they share 10 friends with me that are all scrap peeps, but if I haven't really built a relationship with them, I won't approve the request. No offense to those I've ignored. lol

[joelsgirl]

I ignore requests all the time. I kind of go back and forth about it. I mean, I can always turn them off so I never see them, and it makes them happy I accepted their request but doesn't actually bother me to have done it. But sometimes I feel like FB is my place for self expression and I want to express myself to people I actually care about. I cut my list down to about 200 a year ago, but I'm way past 300 now because I just decided I didn't care that much.
People use FB for different things. If anyone ever calls you on it, I'd just tell them that you like to use FB just to stay connected with people you have relationships with because that's all you have time for or whatever.

[LibbysMommy]

Originally Posted by emmasmommy

i add people i know online pretty freely. i'm more reserved with those i know 'in real life.' if i don't talk to them on a regular basis and am already friends with them, odds are they're just being nosey, and i don't have time for that.

Yes. This. I just cleaned out a bunch of 'real life' friends because of all of the nosiness but no communication...urgh. I just don't have time for that.

[Priscilla]

oooh, I do this, but it's usually someone that I met through a friend that I hit it off with and exchanged numbers with so we can get together.

Originally Posted by Jennilyn

I sometimes friend request someone I just met. .

[Jennilyn]

Once I got rid of a bunch of friends and so I put my status as "Cleaned out a bunch of friends so if you see this, you made the cut!" and one of my ex-coworkers commented that she hates it when people say stuff like that and asked me to defriend her, but she defriended me before I could do it. I didn't think she was serious...like wtf?

[mummytothree]

it wouldn't bother me, but then again I don't share anything personal on facebook. everyone uses facebook for a different reason. some people use it to get to know others better and to even met totally new people. Unless you told her that you only allow close family and really good friends then she wouldn't have known that you might not welcome her friend request. I say just ignore it if you want or send her a little note explaining that you only friend family and forgot about it!!!

[LenaGardner]

Kim and I have met in real life LOL...she watched Naomi when I was sick and in the hospital even and she visited me when Parker was born so yeah, we're FB friends and Kim, I totally just shout laughed when you mentioned your last name. I don't really think about it, so I had to think hard about what your last name was first I didn't realize people would be so rude.

I used to accept all friend requests, but now I have it set so people can't even request me. And now when I delete a friend, I block them so they can't reequest. But let me elaborate...it's not like I just go deleting people to be mean...This lady cut Naomi's hair and she FR me. I accepted. Then I decided she did a bad job of cutting her hair and that we were never going back...I didn't want to post we were at the salon and have her be upset. So I just deleted and blocked her It's stuff like that. The other people I deleted I have no relationship with, don't post in English, and this one strange distant relative who only posts about the world ending soon. I just had to clear my list out...I still have a lot of friends but that's ok.

[MissKim]

I rarely ignore a request, and almost always accept. I have a bunch I ignore though. If you aren't typing in English, I'm probably going to ignore you. I don't care too much about people seeing what I put out there. Part of it is that I have a blog and I figure they can read the same stuff there and I can't control who reads it, so why do I care on Facebook... ya know?

I have never blocked anyone until a few weeks ago. I posted some photos of a show we saw over Spring Break and a couple of crazy fans added me because of the guys made my photo his profile picture. Yeah, no thanks. The fact that we enjoy the show does not my friend make.

[Nettio]

I've had people I've just met in person add me on Facebook and I think it's kind of nice. Like a little way of saying, hey I thought you seemed cool. It's not like you're agreeing to be BFFs forever. I probably wouldn't be bold enough to do it but it doesn't bother me when someone does.

As far as scrapbooking friends, I used to be really lenient but after multiple times of getting added to email lists for digistores I've never even heard of, I've really cracked down on it. It's one thing to spam me on Facebook but when you send crappy product annoucements to my email inbox, I'm done. So now I only add people who I recognize no matter how many friends we have in common. I should probably just limit what certain people can see so my email is hidden but I think that requires making lists and I'm lazy.

Oh and I was going to say that my last name is super rare - rare as in anyone who has my last name is related to me, LOL - but for some reason I've never worried about that. I don't know why.

[LenaGardner]

Originally Posted by Nettio

Oh and I was going to say that my last name is super rare - rare as in anyone who has my last name is related to me, LOL - but for some reason I've never worried about that. I don't know why.

Well, I think in Kim's case, her concern is a little different...not only is her last name rare but it's...I'm not sure how to describe it since it's not my last name, but I think it's the kind of last name that immature people would make fun of. If that makes any sense?

I was getting a LOT of unwanted messages before I did a sweep of my page.

[flergs]

I used to accept anyone who was into digiscrap, but now I only accept people I know. I also deleted a lot of people recently. I figure it's my page so I can do as I please.

Designers have fan pages to keep up with, we have twitter & forums so there are plently of ways to interect without facebook as well lol.

LOL about the hairdresser & bad review, sometimes I want to have a rant about something local and have to remember friends of friends etc... ugh.

[StephanieLH]

I have had people from HS which was almost 30 years ago "friend" me and then want to chat. I ignore the chat request cause dang if I remember most any of them. I bothers me that i can't but goodness not sure how i could pretend to remember if we were chatting.

I thinbk alot of people think they are "losers" if they don;t have lots of friends.

[sprauncey1]

Originally Posted by LenaGardner

Well, I think in Kim's case, her concern is a little different...not only is her last name rare but it's...I'm not sure how to describe it since it's not my last name, but I think it's the kind of last name that immature people would make fun of. If that makes any sense?

I was getting a LOT of unwanted messages before I did a sweep of my page.

That is a good way to put it Lena! LOL seriously if we had the choice (and it didn't involve DH's parents disowning us, we would have had a different last name).

Its funny how FB can be used in so many different ways! The thing I wonder about some of the requests I get, is whether they really requested me specifically or if they just allowed FB to send out requests from their gmail, yahoo, etc account. KWIM I guess that is why I always send out a personal sentence or two when I try to friend someone.

[flergs]

Originally Posted by sprauncey1

he thing I wonder about some of the requests I get, is whether they really requested me specifically or if they just allowed FB to send out requests from their gmail, yahoo, etc account. KWIM I guess that is why I always send out a personal sentence or two when I try to friend someone.

Sometimes you might pop up in suggested friends, because you have mutual friends etc... But still, why ask to friend someone just because you have friends in common? lol

[kristijoy]

I only accept people I know and have had some meaningful contact in someway. I do have several scrapping friends that I have never actually met in person, but have had great connections with them. I also have some relatives who are friends on facebook that I have never met. Like a cousin of my mothers. I've really enjoyed awakening a connection with him as he loves to post old pictures of our family. Never met him before in my life, and am not likely to ever have face to face contact!

I post every few days on facebook, but it's usually the 'reporting type' posts. Went here. Enjoyed the zoo type stuff. If I wouldn't personally put it on a bill board I won't post it!

[deepounds]

Originally Posted by kristijoy

If I wouldn't personally put it on a bill board I won't post it!

Same for me. I actually lurk mostly & snag pictures of my great nieces & nephews :-) I'll accept most requests but have been known to hide quite a few later cause I just didn't want to plod through so much stuff that was of no interest whatsoever to me.

[NeverendingJen]

I'm not too picky, but I do go through purge phases wheere i clean things out...just last month I was down to 150 people, now I've got at least another 100 added back because they noticed they were gone and bothered to add mea gain

Like lynette, I too have one of those weird last names where it's pretty rare that they aren't related if its the same, lol

[littlekiwi]

Originally Posted by lovely1m

If I know them at all, I approve. I dont put anything on there that is a big deal to me, so I don't much care.

same with me

[kristijoy]

Originally Posted by deepounds

I'll accept most requests but have been known to hide quite a few later cause I just didn't want to plod through so much stuff that was of no interest whatsoever to me.

I do this! If someone starts to get a bit righteous or to political or just plain annoying (like posting endless pictures of themselves in the mirror or playing endless games) I just hide them.

[NettieB]

Maybe it's because i'm a relative facebook dinosaur - i just finally got an account this year - but kinda look at it like running into someone at the shopping mall or grocery - anyone you would say a hello to is your facebook friend.

And it's a given, if you're even at the store, you're not airing your dirty laundry. Please.

mostly i try to use it for information - the links are incredible that friends share - so if I'm "friending" you it's generally because i like the way you think and likely you have some link i'll absolutely love. Hopefully i can do likewise.

[jacinda]

Originally Posted by emmasmommy

i add people i know online pretty freely. i'm more reserved with those i know 'in real life.' if i don't talk to them on a regular basis and am already friends with them, odds are they're just being nosey, and i don't have time for that.

This is me too. I'm quite happy for scrapbooking contacts to be my friends, but people I maybe went to school with, or worked with years ago......not so much. I think it's feeling more vulnerable because I know they live close by (at least in the same country). Saying that, I don't post surnames, addresses, name of the school or community etc on my facebook page. Don't want anyone finding me or my kids that don't already know where we live.

[jennyryan21]

I ignore friend requests all the time. I'm a tiny bit OCD and can't stand to have people on my friends list that I don't know personally (i.e. known for years) or don't talk to on a regular basis. I don't like to have my FB page flooded with news from people that I barely know. (As a matter of fact, it's time to do some weeding )