Breaking Point

[nun69]

Originally Posted by Jengerbread88

I just can't deal with him, too.

so DON'T....until the baby gets here, just don't deal with him....tell him if he needs something from you to contact your lawyer...end of story...I know this is hard, but you have yourself and the baby to worry about right now...the rest of it will work itself out....and as far as him trying to declare you an unfit mother, I think it is alot involved and actually pretty hard to prove, so don't stress on that aspect just take care of you and Zach and school for now~

[newfiemountiewife]

Originally Posted by nun69

so DON'T....until the baby gets here, just don't deal with him....tell him if he needs something from you to contact your lawyer...end of story...I know this is hard, but you have yourself and the baby to worry about right now...the rest of it will work itself out....and as far as him trying to declare you an unfit mother, I think it is alot involved and actually pretty hard to prove, so don't stress on that aspect just take care of you and Zach and school for now~

What she said.

And courts tend NOT to take babies/kids away from their mothers unless the situation is seriously messed up with her...which I just don't see from what I read (DH is a cop...I know how this works). I know it's hard, but try not to worry about that!

[Darcy Baldwin]

He's also just saying it because he knows it gets to you. I agree with Angie - everything through a lawyer from this point on. Don't even talk to him. If you can, give him back his stuff through a courier he has to sign for, or through his attorney, and leave it at that. Don't hold on to it so he has no reason to keep bugging you for it.

[meganmecrazy]

EXACTLY what they are all saying!! Sorry your dealing with all of this.

[lauren grier]

they all say that crap ;] believe you me.. it's a power thing rather than actual intent. for now, simply don't deal with him. there's no reason to. once the baby is born visitation etc will have to happen but keep your contact with him to the bare minimum and don't worry about it. he doesnt have any grounds to have your unborn child taken away from you based on your post.. it's just hot air.

[Paula]

I know it's hard, but ignore him! You have enough to deal with, you don't need this and you can control whether you deal with him or not. Just kick his butt to the curb and take care of the real people that matter - you and the baby.

[jovi_girl]

Totally agree. Don't talk to him. If he calls don't answer it. If he messages u, ignore it. If he comes to your house have someone tell him your not home. In my experience, men like this are all talk and will continue on if they think they're getting at you. If he really needs to speak with you, then do it thru a lawyer.

U just need to cut him off and focus on yourself. He's not worth the drama!

[Jengerbread88]

My dad is a cop, so he has just given me advice, too.

La, I realize that I may have to deal with visitation, etc, but in his last text to me, he said "I don't even believe he's mine," (Zach is 100% his, because I haven't been active with ANYONE else anywhere CLOSE to that time, but... whatever). Anyway, he has so far made it clear he doesn't even want to know when Zach arrives, let alone see him... so I don't know whether or not there will be visitation. And for him to get visitation in Kansas, it puts him in a position where he is accepting Zach is his, and therefore accepting the possibility that he may have to pay child support. He isn't too fond of paying child support on another kid, so I don't see him even trying to see Zach... but, that's just my thought on it.

Thanks for the support and advice, ladies. It helps.

[nun69]

honey we will always be here when you need us ♥♥♥

[Jengerbread88]

Originally Posted by nun69

honey we will always be here when you need us ♥♥♥

This is why I love SSD more than almost anything.

[Milmomma]

Dittoing the drop him like its hotttt. I would say block his number so he can't even stress you, leave him with your email or something. So you can deal with him on your terms and on your time. He is not important enough to mess with you and the baby. Just worry about you. If he's like you say and coming from KC, I understand the Kansas Laws, he won't want to know the kid just wants to get to you. When you stop letting him get to you, he will leave as the game is not fun anymore. :/

[Ginger_79]

So sorry you have to go through that! I agree with anyone to ignore him completely. Also, knowing how most women work, make it impossible for yourself to be in contact. Block numbers, emails everything. Just leave him your laywers details. Tell your friends and family to not forward anything from him. To not even tell you when he tried. Tell them to stick with this, even if you change your mind later and ask them. Tell them, about the contractions and that they need to help you protecting yourself until the baby is born.