A MOM Question

[Lyd]

Originally Posted by joelsgirl

I pretty much agree with what everyone else said, especially Lydia.

Now THIS is what I like to hear. Everyone should say this, about everything, all the time. Tee Hee!

[rachaelsscraps]

I don't make the child give up the toy if they had it first, even if it belongs to the kid asking for it. If they fight about it, I take it away..

This kinda thing always ticks me off-
My sister and I both have sons around the same age...and this happens all the time---> My son is playing with my nephew's toy and nephew asks if he can have it. My son says no because he had it first, so nephew (who whines a lot) starts to cry. My sister asks my son to give it to him (which I don't agree with)... then when it's turned around and my nephew is playing with my son's toy and my son asks for it, my sister says, "he had it first" to my son. URG!!! I hate that kinda crap. But I don't want to start a fight with her over it. So what then? I just hate the double standards.

[jessica31876]

Rachel that is exactly how my husband's sister-in-law was with her daughter/my daughter. We no longer talk and I cannot stand her. My husband does not like her very much either but he is civil whenever he sees her since she is married to his brother. She never comes to any family events though so he only sees her when he goes to his brothers house and she is home.

[ChristyHC]

I've had a ton of success by teaching my kiddos to say "When you're done can I have a turn?" Something about that phrase seems to empower the "wanter" of the toy to feel like they are doing something to get it and empowers the "haver" of the toy to feel like they can share it on their turns. After using this phrase the toy is rarely not shared within a couple of minutes.

If the toy is fought over again and again in a short time, then I announce that they toy must be causing trouble and needs a "time out." So we take it away and put it up high on a shelf or something.

[lliella]

Originally Posted by ChristyHC

I've had a ton of success by teaching my kiddos to say "When you're done can I have a turn?" Something about that phrase seems to empower the "wanter" of the toy to feel like they are doing something to get it and empowers the "haver" of the toy to feel like they can share it on their turns. After using this phrase the toy is rarely not shared within a couple of minutes.

If the toy is fought over again and again in a short time, then I announce that they toy must be causing trouble and needs a "time out." So we take it away and put it up high on a shelf or something.

ooh.. i like this! might try teaching my kids to say that phrase when they want to play with a toy from sibling