Mother vent.

[nikkiARNGwife]

I love my mother...we get along great and all but sometimes...UGH!

It's amazing to me how her memory of our childhood is totally different than mine...I mean we had a good one and all, but she was the mother of 4 children and yes whether she believes it or not she was ALWAYS stressed out and spent A LOT of time fussing and having NO patience with us.

It drives me CRAZY when she calls and I'm in the middle of an "Avery Fit" and he's stressing me out that she wants to lecture me on "not getting stressed" he's just a child blah blah blah!!

I mean seriously..I don't have many memories of my mother when she wasn't stressed...and I don't blame her for that..she taught school full time and raised 4 children. But still..don't lecture me mom!

[Tracyfish]

My mom is the same way and there were only 2 of us. My sister and I joke about it all the time that she's a completely different grandma than she was a mother.

[aggiefamily]

I know how you feel. Exact same situation- 4 kids and a school teacher. I just have to remember that when I vent to my mom that her advice is coming as a grandmother, not as a mother.

[LibbysMommy]

Ugh. I totallly feel ya, girl!! My mom is the exact same way. Her memories of our childhood are very different from our memories!! Ours was good too, but it's funny that she doesn't remember any faults that she had, yet she doesn't fail to point them out in me when she sees them. I guess it's a mom thing.

[meganmecrazy]

OMG! My mom does that crap! I remember very clearly how stressed she was with my sister and I a lot of times, which I agree is fine... but she ticks me off when she gets mad for even raising an eyebrow to my kids. UGH!

[ditzyscrap]

LOL, my sisters and I always make fun of mom and the things she'd do to us as kids (again, good childhood...but she doesn't remember a lot of these things) and she laughs at how random and dumb alot of them were, but they made sense at the time, I guess.

I'm sure when we're all grandma's, we'll do the same things to our kids.

[Nikki Epperson]

My mom is the same way --- until she has the kids and they are getting on HER nerves! LOL

[LeeAndra]

Yup, ditto.

My mom has completely surprised me with the kind of grandma she has become to my sister's stepson-to-be. When they go to the grocery store together, he gets one of those big mylar balloons if he wants one. They make cookies together on a regular basis. They go to the zoo regularly as long as there's nice weather and ride the train 2 or 3x.

These are things my mom never did with my sister or me. She was too busy working FT and taking care of the house FT and keeping the four of us organized and at the right place at the right time.

Seeing her do it with Logan makes me miss the memories I will never have of her.

And Jeff wonders why I want to be a SAHM...

[HeatherKS]

Originally Posted by LibbysMommy

Ugh. I totallly feel ya, girl!! My mom is the exact same way. Her memories of our childhood are very different from our memories!! Ours was good too, but it's funny that she doesn't remember any faults that she had, yet she doesn't fail to point them out in me when she sees them. I guess it's a mom thing.

Ditto to that. EXACTLY.

[LenaGardner]

I do understand. Not on the same points, but my mother and I remember my childhood differently too! She and I are also very close but sometimes I wonder which one of us remembers it clearly...or if both of us have changed it in our memories

[Laura_A]

Keeping my mouth shut since my mom hangs out here. ROFL!!!

[Leila]

It's those little Mom comments that make the stress even worse, isn't it? Sorry you had to deal with that this morning, Nikki.

My mom...I swear the woman's purposely blocked out all memory of my childhood. She is insistent that things that happened never happened even after my dad, brother, and sisters all back me up in my recollection of events. And she makes up things that never happened and throws a fit when someone tries to tell her it never happened. The stress though, that she remembers. She still tells me to calm down.

[my3hens]

LOL I guess its like a grandma's version of selective hearing! My kids are sweet as pie around my mama and then get home and they are just off the wall LOL I always try to call her around the time they get all cooky so she can at least hear their true colors LOL!

[my4boys]

When any of my kids acted up this is what my Mom would say to me " Payback is a beeotch !!!" WOW, so true indeed!!!!

[scrappychic]

I don't know if moms will ever stop lecturing, I think that's part of being a mom. they can't help it. I can already see myself doing it when the kids are older.

[scrapperjade]

Haha! The thing with my mom, is that she feels like she was THE WORST MOTHER ever, and when Bree & I tease her, she gets all sad. I always laugh at her and tell her that she must have done SOMETHING right... all 5 of her kids still love her .

But yeah, some days I just go squirrely and I call her out of desperation to save my childs life (okay, maybe not that dramatic, but you kwim), and she's all like "But I've got to clean my house... its SUCH a mess!!" Meaning there is like 1 magazine out of place. LOL! And Avalynne is always the perfect angel baby with my mom. There's been times when I can't get her to stop screaming, and I'll just call my mom and hold the phone towards Ava, haha.... then she believes me that she can be bad!! LOL!

[Nonnie917]

Gee, does that ever sound familiar. My mother had the memories of my childhood all WRONG too. Her ideas of raising children bordered on abuse. Her belief was that if a child is throwing a temper tantrum to throw a small glass of cold water in their face. Suppose to stop them dead in their tracks. The thing is, I believe that I was stupid enough to repeat that senario (sp) to somebody else. I sure hope they didn't follow it.

[Nonnie917]

Originally Posted by Laura_A

Keeping my mouth shut since my mom hangs out here. ROFL!!!

Your in trouble child. Was I really that bad?

[Paula]

Feelin for you sweetie!! My mom is ALWAYS on my case about my kids.

[lizzyfizzy]

my mom was not fun! i have no memories of her really playing with me past 4 or 5. she went through some crazy crap and luckily she knows it...otherwise i'd have to strangle her. lol gl with your mama. they can be so DAMNED crazy!

[jessica31876]

Hehe my daughter says my lectures are the worst punishment she can receive LOL. I think the perception of how things were/are is different for everyone. I know my daughter remembers certain events in her life alot differently then I do

[lizzyfizzy]

Originally Posted by Laura_A

Keeping my mouth shut since my mom hangs out here. ROFL!!!

ahahahahahaha!

[Sarah8914]

So, my mom wasn't stressed out all the time--I really feel like she was the best mom ever--but what she seems to forget is that CHILDREN have faults, and lots of them, because they are children and don't know better. She seems to think that motherhood was all fun and games and that us children were all perfect all the time. Now, I suppose that's not a bad memory to have--but seriously--it has been a real eye opener for her to see how difficult motherhood is for me.

I would think maybe she was just really made to be a mother and it was all great for her--but my dad always reminds her/us differently.