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09-02-2011, 02:45 PM
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It's all official and stuff now...
Brian is leaving again on deployment. Mobilizes on Dec. 1 but we don't know yet if he will actually deploy before Christmas or after. This is deployment number three.
 This time I'm more upset for the kids...Avery missed him last time but he was only 3 turning 4 so it wasn't as hard for him. Now he's 6 and he LOVES his Daddy. We haven't told him yet. And Ella too..she loves her Daddy so this is going to be so hard for them. So I'm sorry in advance for all the whiny "I hate deployment" threads I'm sure I'll be starting once he leaves. 
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09-02-2011, 02:52 PM
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Nikki, I'm so sorry
 thank you for the sacrifice that Brian and your family makes for serving our country. But 3 deployments is way too much.
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09-02-2011, 02:53 PM
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UGH. Sorry Nikki. I don't know how you do it. You amaze me each time with your strength during the times he is away. And you just go ahead and post those threads. We will love you no matter how whiny you get.
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09-02-2011, 03:03 PM
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I am so sorry you have to go through this again. I am sending many prayers to you and your family during this difficult time.
and ditto to what Julie said....Thank you for the sacrifice that your family is making...all to serve and protect our county. ((BIG Hugs))
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09-02-2011, 03:15 PM
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Ugh, I totally hear ya Nikki. We were lucky to have DH home this year, but I'm thinkin' next year he'll probably deploy again. It's never easy when kids are in the equation. Lots of hugs coming your way.
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09-02-2011, 03:29 PM
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I'm so sorry.
You have all my admiration for going through this.
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09-02-2011, 03:33 PM
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That's got to be hard Nikki! I don't know how the military & deployment works, so forgive me if this is a stupid question, lol. How many times can a soldier be deployed? I thought Brian had a permanent job where you live?
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09-02-2011, 03:42 PM
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That's so hard, sweetie. My SIL is here in Utah with us (stationed in GA) while her hubby is deployed in Afghanistan for a year. It's been fun to have her, but I see how hard it is for her and her 6 kids (one just got married) she has kids from 2 to 16 at home. If it helps, please know that people like me and my family really appreciate the sacrifce these military men & women are making for our country, and I can't imagine how hard it is. You're so tough and always handle it so well. If you complain once in awhile here, I don't blame you one bit.
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09-02-2011, 03:43 PM
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Thanks everyone. All I can really say is that he'll be in Africa this time..9 months in country.
There's not really a limit on how often he can be deployed..just whenever the Army says so. Brian is Army National Guard but he's AGR or Active Duty. Normally a national guardsman will have a civilian job and then do his 1 wkend a mo/2 weeks a year thing, but Brian is full time..so his regular job is within the national guard. Right now his job is/was in recruiting (like the boss of that in layperson terms lol) but he was pulled to a Special Forces Unit for this deployment. They needed an officer of his rank and so they just pulled the name of the AGR soldier next up to deploy and unfortunately that was Brian.
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09-02-2011, 03:46 PM
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Nikki I'm sorry to hear this. I know it's tough on a family when a family member deploys...I couldn't imagine it being my husband. Hang in there. You're strong. You have all of us here at SSD to support you.
Thank your husband for me for his service and sacrifice.
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09-02-2011, 04:05 PM
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I feel for you Nikki and I know what you're going through. DH was in a select unit of the Marines and would deploy all the time - sometimes for just a couple weeks, sometimes a couple months, sometimes a lot longer. I got used to it because that is who and what he was, but it didn't make it easier. He was usually in a lot of danger and that didn't help either. Vent/whine all you want, we'll listen. It is hard on the kids, but they adjust better than we adults do - I always found that if I didn't dwell on daddy they wouldn't either. Not that we didn't talk about him, we did, but we focused on our everyday life to try to make it as routine as possible. (granted we only had 1 child for most of his service - DD was a surprise late in life child - lol
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09-02-2011, 04:23 PM
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ugh nikki. i seriously have a lump in my throat for you. you all have been through SO much. thank brian (and your whole family) for everything he does.
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09-02-2011, 05:17 PM
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Sorry you're having to go through this again, Nikki. On the plus side, at least it's not Iraq or Afghanistan?
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09-02-2011, 05:19 PM
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Im sorry to hear that. I know how happy you were when he came home from his last deployment and I honestly have no idea how you can handle him being away for so long. I know you miss him like crazy and the kids will miss him too. Hope the time goes by quickly for all of you and he will be home before you know it! Oh and I hope they wait til after christmas to sendc him out!
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09-02-2011, 05:20 PM
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(((HUGS))) Nikki - I'm so sorry. I hope he will be able to be home for Christmas!
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09-02-2011, 05:29 PM
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I was kind of relieved that it wasn't Iraq or Afghanistan again...but there's some serious stuff going on in parts of Africa plus he's deploying with Special Forces and basically can't tell me anything about where or what he's going to be doing. That part scares me.
Right now I think I'm still in the "denial" phase. When I first found out I was angry and sad..but mostly angry..that's how I tend to deal with it at first. Now I'm trying to just NOT think about it. I don't want to tell Avery yet. I'm just trying to focus on today and not think about how much the holidays are going to suck again this year. Then yesterday DH came home and said they're sending him over for 2 weeks this month for an advanced scouting blah blah..that's AFTER he gets back from a week of training at Ft. Walton this coming week..so basically he'll be gone most of September..then 2 more weeks in October and who knows what in Nov. This year is our 10th wedding anniversary (Dec. 29.) We'd planned on a trip away to celebrate but who knows if we'll even get to do that now.
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09-02-2011, 05:40 PM
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Oh Nikki
I am so so sorry that you all have to go through this again. I'm here if you need to talk (((hugs)))
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09-02-2011, 06:03 PM
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09-02-2011, 06:15 PM
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Nikki when he gets deployed like that does he get leave during the deployment or will he be gone for the full nine months?
Also so sorry about the anniversary. I hope you'll have some time to celebrate before he goes for both Christmas and your anniversary (and your little girl's birthday is also around christmas too right?)
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09-02-2011, 09:19 PM
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Oh Nikki, I am so sorry. Deployments are the worst. We are here for ya.
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09-02-2011, 09:25 PM
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dang.....that is one thing I HATE about the military...don't get me wrong, we did it because we loved it, but gosh darn it it is soooo hard to leave yoru family and not know what the inknown has in store for you! we will be here for you when you need us...my poor kids were 14, 6, 2 and 3 when I left last time
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09-02-2011, 10:17 PM
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I'm sorry Nikki! My cousin was deployed three times until he retired. It really sucks especially when there are little ones involved. I'm thankful for the sacrifices that Brian and your family make on behalf of our country. Please know that it is greatly appreciated.
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09-02-2011, 11:24 PM
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I'm so sorry Nikki. Jer's deploying for the 6th time soon and I'm just so tired of it. I really wish all our soldiers could stay home with their families. Feel free to whine, vent, moan, etc. to me any time.
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09-03-2011, 12:11 AM
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I'm sorry Nikki, that has to be super hard for your family.
I volunteer with the OpLove program and I recently photographed a homecoming and his wife told me this was his 4th deployment since he'd been in the AF. The couple is very young (like 22-23 I think) with a baby and he's been gone every single spring/summer on deployment. I just can't imagine going through that... If you get a chance you should look into the program though and see if there are any participating photographers in your area. The program is free and you could have family photos taken before Brian leaves and then he gets an album of the photos sent to him.
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09-03-2011, 01:06 AM
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Sorry, Nikki - I know exactly what you're going through & you definitely have every right to whine about it if you want! Thank you (and Brian certainly!) for making such sacrifices in service of our country.
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09-03-2011, 01:51 AM
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{sob} So sorry! I want to echo what everyone else has said about appreciating the sacrifice your family makes. We love you, and you feel free to whine as much as you want!
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09-03-2011, 06:57 AM
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Oh Nikki I know that was NOT the news you wanted to hear! (never really but still...).
And I get you on it being different as the kiddos get older. When they are just babes, you are their world, but as they get older they definitely "need" that Daddy time (boys especially I think). This is why I'm even considering moving to Kuwait. I have no desire to move there, but my desire to keep our family together is stronger. You don't have that choice. You are a strong woman, but feel free to break down a time or two, you are only human! Big hugs!!!
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09-03-2011, 07:05 AM
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Okay now y'all have me all teary lol. Thanks so much for the encouraging words...it means a lot!
It is going to be hard on Avery...and I'm SO glad we decided to postpone selling our house and moving this year. We're still close to my parents which is good for Avery b/c he can have lots of Papaw time. And one good thing that may come from this is that when he gets back Brian will probably get the command over the unit here in town. That would mean no more 3hr commute every day.
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09-03-2011, 01:37 PM
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((hugs)) Nikki. I know it's wearing...the ops tempo and the separations have just been far too many and far too long for a long time. Will pray for you and your sweeties for reserves of strength and for support to surround you.
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09-03-2011, 02:30 PM
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09-03-2011, 06:23 PM
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Oh my. Bless you and your husband for your sacrifice. I pray he stays safe and that you and the kids adjust easily.
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