Rant.

[Jengerbread88]

So I nanny for this little girl. She's 4 years old. And she's a royal terror, but that's another story (seriously. They quit on two daycare providers, then on their GRANDMOTHER, before hiring me).

On the first day, this little girl said "Well, we fired ___, and then we fired ____, and then we even fired Grandma! Wonder how long YOU will last before we fire you?"

Anyway, long story short, she was a terror, but I didn't really say anything. She kept saying she wished Zach would die. I held my tongue. She seriously sucked, and I didn't say a word.

Well, last week, her mom decided to work from home one day. She asked me still to come anyway, so she could have someone to watch her while she worked. Well, the little girl saw her mom was home, and started screaming. High pitched, shrill scream. Her mom took her to her room, and the girl sat up there and screamed for an hour and a half until she fell asleep, and her mom let me go home early.

Then the little girl went to preschool the next day. The preschool teacher informed the mom that the little girl was being a royal terror at school, too. Then that night she went to dance, and the dance teacher asked her not to come back because she was so bad there.

And apparently, all of this teamed up for the mom to decide "Oh, hey, she needs something new," so she FIRES ME! She quit on me, because her daughter wasn't managing...

Which, fine, whatever, quit on me, that's okay. But she quit on me tonight. I was supposed to work tomorrow.... so, thanks for the warning. AND, no severance, nothing. I literally was left in the lurch. I thought "Okay, car tags are due, I get paid tomorrow, and then I can pay those," because my car tags are $9 less than what I get paid, so... perfect.

Oh. Right. Now I don't get paid.

Gee, thanks for the warning.

I have NEVER had anyone quit on me before- I've always had rave reviews. This lady did even say *I* was great, she'd be happy to provide references for me, but that it was her daughter that was the issue.

I just have to focus on the fact that God will provide, but seriously, that's like... $400 that I WON'T have each month now. :/

Sorry. I just needed to vent. And I didn't really know who else to vent to.

[nun69]

wow...is there a reason she won't pay you? I have to pay my daycare in advance so if I quit, I am the one screwed not her....so sorry to hear this

[emmasmommy]

yah, why wouldn't she pay you for what you worked? that's not right, regardless if she decided she didn't want you to work for her anymore or not....
people suck

[rach3975]

I'm sorry! I hope you can find another position caring for a much easier child! Are you sure they aren't willing to be references? Would it be worth calling the family and asking? I know she didn't mention it, but she may just not have been thinking. I feel sorry for them-changing caregivers so often is going to make the problem worse, not fix it overnight.

ETA: I got the impression that you were counting on tomorrow's money, not that you hadn't been paid for days already worked. If it's the latter, definitely pursue it and get your money!

[misfitinmn]

Originally Posted by rach3975

I'm sorry! I hope you can find another position caring for a much easier child! Are you sure they aren't willing to be references? Would it be worth calling the family and asking? I know she didn't mention it, but she may just not have been thinking. I feel sorry for them-changing caregivers so often is going to make the problem worse, not fix it overnight.

Totally this! They need to give the poor girl a chance to form a relationship with her caregiver and vice versa - once the caregiver has established authority it would help I think but that takes time!

[Jengerbread88]

No no no- she paid me for time already worked, and she said she WOULD be a reference- that it was her little girl that was the problem, not me. I was counting on the pay for this week, not the past... Because I had been meeting all of their expectations, AND because just last Wednesday, she told me how they absolutely loved me and were so happy it was working out with me, I was pretty certain the job was sticking around.

Her last provider is a friend of my mom, and apparently all she got was an email... at least I got a phone call, kwim?

It just stinks. I mean, I'll get over it, and I'm sure there's a plan.

I feel bad for them, because this little girl is SO in control of the whole family.

I mean, it's cool. I'll find another job soon. I just don't have any prospects, and since she knew LAST THURSDAY that she was quitting on me (and openly admitted it), and didn't tell me until today, it kind of sucks- because last I heard Wednesday, things were going great, Thursday she decided to quit, I could have been looking for something new in these past few days instead of thinking I had some sort of security.

Oh well. I'll use her as a reference and move on.

[Kara]

How frustrating! That poor girl needs some authority in her life.

[SweetMelissa]

Oh man that sucks. It would of been nice of her to give you some warning! I agree that by switching her care provider they are not helping the situation. I hope you can find another job soon.

[nun69]

that sucks...at least she paid you for what yo had worked..too bad she didn't at least give you like a 2 week notice so you could look for another job in the meantime....

[Valgal]

WOW. That girl needs some serious parenting! Sounds like a case for Mary Poppins

[Jengerbread88]

It totally doesn't bug me that she dropped me... she's a parent and she has her reasons (even if it is only going to make things worse for the girl since she is now "in control" and seeing how many nannies she can fire), but a notice would have been SO helpful, so I could look for something else.

I'm cutting my losses there, and saying God's going to provide. My mom is being so helpful, and hey, if nothing else, I have the parent as a reference.

It just stinks because I planned on being there at least through January... but I'm just going to have to make more of a conscious effort to save, instead of saving the "easy" way with this extra money that was coming in.

I'm sure it will work out. It just frustrates me. :shrugs: Notice would have been nice. I could have found something else.

And yeah, this little girl needs Mary Poppins. BAD.

[AmberK]

Did you tell the mom what the girl said to you about how long it would take to fire you? Not that it will change anything but maybe it will make the mom think a little harder about doing something about her brat....er.... daughter.

sorry they did that to you. Hope you find something soon to make up for the lost money.

[Jengerbread88]

Originally Posted by AmberK

Did you tell the mom what the girl said to you about how long it would take to fire you? Not that it will change anything but maybe it will make the mom think a little harder about doing something about her brat....er.... daughter.

sorry they did that to you. Hope you find something soon to make up for the lost money.

I did mention the comment off-hand after she fired me, saying "I suppose I should have seen it coming... before I even got to your house on the first day, in the car home from preschool, she said _____."

[AmberK]

How has Scentsy been going for you? I've got a show tonight....my first show since last November! Thats hard to believe. I mainly do resells to my friends and family and then do basket parties. Maybe now is the time to really get into gear and try to get some parties and stuff to make some extra money until you get something more permanent? Let me know if you need help!

[Jengerbread88]

It's going really well, and I have some shows coming up, plus I'm doing a multi-vendor event at my house, and I'm really hoping that gets me some leads. It's great, but so far hasn't been enough to really make up for what I'm losing, kwim?

I love love love Scentsy, and I'm having a blast selling it! It just takes time to build a solid customer base, and I'm in a pretty saturated area... some of my closest friends and family have started buying from me, but I still have a few fringe friends that have another consultant. I want customers, but I don't want to steal from anyone else! I'm hoping to find someone who wants to join, though!

[Milmomma]

My mom is a child care worker and I just have to say you must be a saint. I would never be able to handle that child. I hope the mom pays you anyhow as she let you go. I know you wanted the job, but maybe its a blessing you don't have to deal with that child.

[Jengerbread88]

Originally Posted by Milmomma

My mom is a child care worker and I just have to say you must be a saint. I would never be able to handle that child. I hope the mom pays you anyhow as she let you go. I know you wanted the job, but maybe its a blessing you don't have to deal with that child.

I was thinking the same thing. I probably would have quit in January anyway because Zach would have been crawling by then, they're not very childproofed, and it's a SUPER toxic place the way that girl behaves- I don't want him picking up those bad habits! Lol.

Several times she would look at me and say "I wish that baby would just die." or "Can't you leave that baby outside so you won't have a baby anymore?" Once she threw his car seat (he wasn't in it, thank God) and had to go in time out.

Her mom told me to give her a peanut butter sandwich for lunch one day. I did. She threw a fit and refused to eat, then kept crying because she was "so hungry," so I'd direct her back to the sandwich, so she started that high pitched scream again.

:sigh:

Despite the money worries, today was SO much less stressful for Zach and I. He was in a much better mood than he is on most Mondays.