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05-13-2013, 11:02 AM
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RQOTD: How you come across online..
Do you ever wonder if the way you come across online is different than your real personality? Or even in person do you feel as though people think of you differently than how you want?
This question is worded AWFUL so if someone feels like saying it in a better way please feel free  IRL I often feel as though people probably think I'm snobby as I can be quite shy and uncomfortable around people so I don't usually go out of my way to say hi first or anything.. I keep to myself for the most part. Online I think I come across rather naive and blonde. lol 
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05-13-2013, 11:11 AM
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Nope, smartass online and IRL.
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05-13-2013, 11:17 AM
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 I'm very awkward in social situations... I feel pretty awkward online even, so not sure how I come across. But I'm definitely more outgoing once I feel I 'know' people more, even online.
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05-13-2013, 11:18 AM
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I don't really think a whole lot about it. I interact on my terms...get my extrovert fix, and I gravitate towards girls that are smart and witty and sarcastic like me.
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05-13-2013, 11:20 AM
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Although I do think I've picked up a reputation online for being naughty and loving bewbs. No idea how that happened.
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05-13-2013, 11:34 AM
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Pretty sure I am the same. I tend to be out going, opinionated and a smartass. There are times IRL in large group I get a little shy and need to warm up to the group before jumping in. That doesn't happen often but it does happen.
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05-13-2013, 11:34 AM
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I'm quiet and only speak when I have something substantial to add. So, I think I might come across as a snotty, know-it-all. Which isn't the case, I just don't want to burden people with drivel, because I tend to ramble. A lot.
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05-13-2013, 11:42 AM
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I'm very shy IRL... and I, too am very awkward. I have been out of work for 5 years and only hanging around a 6 year old, I don't know how to act around adults, apparently. Once you get to know me, I have a very dry humor - love sarcasm, very quick to pick up on a joke, and I find humor in the most inappropriate places... which unless you know me, I probably offend others. Which I think crosses over to online... I word things that probably come across b*tchy because I so want to be sarcastic (not in a mean way, but funny way - if there is one)... so I'm so careful in what I say and so people probably thing I'm snobby. I wish I could be with the popular girls... but just like high school, that will never happen...
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05-13-2013, 11:48 AM
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05-13-2013, 11:55 AM
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I think I'm the same IN PORTUGUESE.
But in English, I may be different. LOL I'm always looking for the better way to say something and I'm not like that IRL. lol I LOVE to talk a lot in portuguese (my fb chat with Ju K. is HUGE!), but I dont spend too much time talking in English because I have always to think more, etc... So, what I'm trying to say is that I'm what I'm URL/IRL, in Portuguese. In English some people may think I'm stupid or others should think I'm all adorable, cute, sweet and things like that. lol And I'm not. lol I'm a nice girl and good friends, but only with those who I know deserve. I know how to be evil. LOL ok, now no one else will love me. HAHAH
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05-13-2013, 11:57 AM
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You should just be super chatty in Portuguese on FB for all of us...we can figure it out.
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05-13-2013, 11:57 AM
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I'm seriously counting down to watch your featured designer video. You have to say something sexy in Portuguese JUST FOR ME. Hell, you could read the shampoo bottle, and it would sound sexy.
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05-13-2013, 12:02 PM
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hahahahahah Krystal!!! you're the best! haha I'm already SO nervous about my video. I now I'll also have to be sexy?! Too much pressure. hahah
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05-13-2013, 12:05 PM
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 I know I make a horrible first impression. I'm pretty sure I come across differently than I really am both IRL and online.
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05-13-2013, 12:05 PM
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05-13-2013, 12:07 PM
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Oh I guess I should add that I worry often IRL and online.. but I'm sure NO one has picked up on that :P
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05-13-2013, 12:13 PM
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Kristin... worry... no way.
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05-13-2013, 12:15 PM
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05-13-2013, 12:34 PM
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I've always been kind of a floater too, my friends have always been very varied. I like that. I don't make friends easily though, I will say the ones I do have are the real deal. And if there's a positive trait I do have, I'm a great friend.
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05-13-2013, 12:47 PM
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I don't think I come across online as fun as I *think* I am IRL. I, too, am quiet and somewhat shy, especially when I first meet someone. But, I'm really very friendly and fun to be around (at least I hope).
I love meeting people IRL that I know online...it's such fun to see what they're "really" like.
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05-13-2013, 12:50 PM
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This is an interesting discussion. I'm also one who is shy initially. And I know it comes off as snobby/unapproachable. It just takes a while to get to know me. And, there's a pretty small group of people in my real life who REALLY know me well.
One thing I've learned about myself is that I'm pretty empathetic. I think a lot about what it's like to be in someone else's situation. And, I often tell stories about my own life that are similar to what someone else is experiencing. Sometimes I think this comes off as me trying to "one up" people and make them think that my life experiences are more dramatic or more interesting than theirs. In reality, I'm trying to make connections and show that I can understand what someone else is going through. Does that make sense? I'm pretty sarcastic. When I'm in a comfortable setting, I talk talk talk. I wonder if this irritates people sometimes. But, my family tells me that it's something they like about me. I'm a perfectionist, so I'm hard on myself and have high expectations for others. Fortunately, this also makes me very reliable. People know they can depend on me to do what I say I will do. I'm a nerd who loves to watch the Sunday morning political talk shows and Charlie Rose. I like to think of myself as wellounded and open-minded. But, I think a lot of people perceive me as ultra conservative and maybe even prudish. I love interacting with all different kinds of people, which is why I enjoy my online friendships so much. I love the diversity we have here in the scrappy community.
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05-13-2013, 01:02 PM
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I feel like I'm the same IRL and online. However, people like me better IRL than if they only know me online. I guess my personality/sense of humor does not translate well to the written word.
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05-13-2013, 01:05 PM
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05-13-2013, 01:07 PM
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Idk what people think of me really, I probably don't know enough people IRL to figure that one out lol. I tend to be very shy and quiet and much an observer in social situations because inside I am terrified and not sure why anyone would like me anyway so why bother lol. Sad but true. My family however know I am an utter moronic goofball who is always singing and dancing and sarcastic as hell. I think online its easier for me to be me but still...not sure exactly what others think as I do not have many close friends online either, I tend to be too afraid to put myself out there to make friends. But I am easily approachable
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05-13-2013, 01:10 PM
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Well, I'm kind of like Kristin.
I actually think I am more outgoing online than IRL. BUT, I am definitely more quick with the wit in person. Once you get to know me, I probably seem like a complete different person because I am very shy around new people. That is not to say I intentionally change who I am, I'm always very true to myself even if it means I end up a bit of an outcast, which I almost always do. I worry A LOT about other peoples feelings. I have a pretty sensitive radar for how other people are feeling. I don't know if I even answered the question, really. In real life AND online, I am totally scatterbrained. And easily distracted.
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05-13-2013, 01:38 PM
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I think my online persona is much stiffer than I am in person. I'm always worried about how things I say in type can be misconstrued, so my sense of humor really isn't portrayed. I am the epitome of an extrovert and I speak my mind (I think that comes across) ... but definitely some of they way I communicate in person is lost in translation without the animation to supplement it
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05-13-2013, 01:48 PM
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I am outgoing, animated, chatty, a bit flighty, and funny IRL. I usually don't feel awkward in social situations unless I feel like my personality isn't meshing well with the people I'm around. I think I can come off as an air-head, but I am not. Honestly. LOL! I'm just a dreamer sometimes and can get lost in the conversation because I'm too busy thinking about something. SQUIRREL! I'm pretty sure that's annoying to some people, but... oh well!
I actually do well with fairly a-type people. Most of my friends are organized, serious-type brainac's who like to laugh. They keep me around for entertainment. LOL. ETA: I'm really not sure how I come off to people online???
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05-13-2013, 02:16 PM
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The older I get, the more shy I get IRL. I really don't want to turn into the old party pooper......but I am heading there, I'm afraid!! I think, really, I just need to get out more......hang up the mom clothes every now and then and let loose!!!!!! I used to be the social butterfly....very loud, fun and very energetic....now I'm kind of shy.........
I think I can still play the loud, obnoxious person online though........
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05-13-2013, 02:19 PM
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I am much more 3rd/4th base online than I am IRL.
http://www.unexpected.org/2013/04/dating-for-moms/ Seriously, though, I am pretty awkward IRL when meeting someone. I overthink everything I'm saying and overanalyze everything that is going on + am trying too hard to make a good impression, so I often stumble over my words or pause in the wrong place or cut the other person off while they're talking (super introverted and insecure, but NOT shy, fyi). It's pretty much the equivalent of a puppy trying to jump into your lap to be petted. Aside from the awkwardness, I am very verbose (yeah, and use words like verbose) and love wordplay and other fun brainy things IRL which can catch people off guard and/or make them think I'm an intellectual snobby-snob. I just have one of those personalities where you either immediately 'get' me or you don't, kwim? Since I express myself the best via writing and appreciate the anonymity and mask the Internet provides, I can get over the awkwardness faster and get to really being me online. Last edited by LeeAndra; 05-13-2013 at 02:21 PM.
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05-13-2013, 02:44 PM
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I've no idea how I come across online. Professional most of the time? Maybe unprofessional when I start talking about boobs or bikini waxes? Strict? Srsbsns. I dunno. Lots of people seem to be surprised when they've seen videos of me because my sweet, silly personality isn't how they expected me to be.
I'm actually super laid back, sweet, not very girly in the emo department, I kinda dont understand women issues most of the time, I tend to prefer hanging out with boys which is why I love gaming in my downtime. I dunno. I'm kind of a nerd really. I tend to think online me = real me but yeah, the surprise at the videos always makes me wonder how I come across in text lol. I think the main thing is that I'm not a sharer, so a lot of people dont know the real me so when I let little real things come out I think sometimes that takes people by surprise sometimes.
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05-13-2013, 03:21 PM
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05-13-2013, 04:56 PM
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Apparently, Lydia and I need to become close friends!
Isn't is interesting that a lot of us tend to be kind of shy in social situations until we warm up yet we chat away on here about all kinds of really important/emotional stuff? I LOVE that!
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05-13-2013, 07:27 PM
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05-13-2013, 08:36 PM
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List me with the shy people who look snobbish. A friend at church told me that my daughter looked just like me, that she could walk past people without a care. It made me feel terrible. It's not that I don't like people, but putting on the friendly in large groups of acquaintances is exhausting.
But in a smaller situation it's so much easier to open up because there is actually time for more than idle chit chat. It takes me awhile to post online, and I often wonder if I look like a snob with all of my self-centered "I'm trying to relate and feel empathy" posts.
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05-13-2013, 08:47 PM
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It depends on the situation. I am quiet so some people tend to think I am stand off ish, but its more just I don't talk if I am not comfortable. When I am comfortable, I am very blunt, straight forward and sarcastic, so I think I probably come across as abrasive. Online, I am not sure actually.
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05-13-2013, 08:50 PM
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I think that I do better in smaller groups online, like with CT forums or friend groups on FB. It's similar to how I am offline. In a party, I would likely be with just a small group of friends rather than circulating the room.
I'm not sure how I come across online. I can be sarcastic, and thanks to certain people, a little of the naughty has emerged Oh, I have gotten feedback that my "neutral" expression has come across as haughty or arrogant. Sorry, I can't change that about me, lol.
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05-13-2013, 08:52 PM
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05-13-2013, 08:58 PM
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I get to feel all smart cause I can read your posts. lol
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05-13-2013, 09:02 PM
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Hmmmm.... IRL... I talk a lot. Like A TON. Slowest eater in the world right here because I'm all "blah blah blah blah blah..." and I refuse to talk and eat at the same time. I'm also fidgety and bouncy. And immature. I'm the first to laugh/giggle/snort at anything that might sound even vaguely perverted. I argue and cuss and yell a lot. I'm very disjointed and mix words up a lot because my head is usually 5 minutes ahead of my tongue in the conversation. And I'm really obnoxious.
So if that's how I come across online, then well, yeah, lol, pretty sure I act like regular-ol' me.
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05-13-2013, 09:05 PM
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In the back of my mind, I'm always kind convinced I've committed some kind of online snafu and so I overcompensate with an obscene amount of exclamation points. Unfortunately this happens in real life as well. ugh.
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05-13-2013, 09:09 PM
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05-13-2013, 10:55 PM
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I'm pretty sarcastic IRL and I think that comes across online.
or else people just think I'm a bitch. Whichever.
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05-14-2013, 02:19 AM
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